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You Can't Change The Shit Life Throws At You, But You Can Change Your Reaction

Photo by Brooke Cagle on Unsplash

Photo by Brooke Cagle on Unsplash

Life isn't fair, but that shouldn't be a secret to anyone. Some people are honestly dealt a shitty hand, while some people are repeatedly dealt the best hand in the deck. You can't change what life throws at you but you can change, and choose, how you react to it. 

The amount of control we have over the things that happen in our lives is very, very limited.

You can't change that someone got in an accident and now you're running late to work from traffic. You can't help that the chef over cooked your salmon at dinner. You can't help that your friend bailed on something you were really looking forward to. You can't control any of that but you can control your reaction – you can control what you do from there.

A lot of time when things don't go our way we let it stress us out completely. We let it start to consume our mind and start screwing with our heads, even when we can't change it. 

We have a tendency to let life hurt us and manipulate our mood almost instantaneously when something doesn't go our way – it's nearly impossible not to let the outside factors affect you from time to time. There are days when I feel like I'm suffocating from stress from external factors and there's nothing worse than knowing I really can't do anything to change it.

There will be times you can't avoid the storm life is throwing at you. It doesn't mean it will suck any less or that it's not hard but you will have to find a way to get through it – you have no other option. 

The most important lesson I've learned so far in life is to wait out the pain you feel because it won't hurt forever. What you're going through might feel impossible right now but it won't feel that way forever. Whatever you're going through will pass, it's only a matter of time and an adjustment of your mindset.

When I first moved a couple months ago I thought the world collapsed on my shoulders with stress, and I wanted nothing more than to avoid it at all costs. The stress from external factors was affecting everything from my health to my work ethic. Part of me wanted to pack up and drive back home. I kept telling myself that it would get better but it didn't feel like it would. Giving up is easy and if you gave up every time life got hard you'd never get anywhere. 

What I learned is that you can either give up or fight through the growing pains, knowing things will get better after the initial discomfort.

I stuck it out, I fought through the bullshit that life started throwing at me and I am stronger for it now – I learned from it.  

Life isn't fair and sometimes that sucks, but you should never get so hung up on missing the flight that you can't see the next one. You can't change the shit life throws at you but you have to know that things will turn around, they will get better, they will work out someway or another. You just have to believe it and that starts with adjusting your mindset and accepting the things you can't change.