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Read This If You Feel Like You're The Girl Who Always Has Her Heart Taken Advantage Of

Photo by Jean Gerber on Unsplash

Photo by Jean Gerber on Unsplash

You're the girl who goes out of her way for people who don't contact you until it's convenient for them. You're the girl who always says "yes" when someone asks for help. You're the girl who calls and texts any of your friends who seem sad or seem like they need a hand. You're the girl who always listens to her friends and gives advice, even when you know they won't take it.

You're the girl who always feels like your heart is taken advantage of by people who are needy, who are selfish, who don't care about you the way you care about them but you keep on giving because that's the kind of person you are. 

You let your heart get taken advantage of because one day you hope someone will care about you the way you care about everyone in your life. You let your heart get taken advantage of because you'd rather hurt than hurt someone else. You let your heart get taken advantage of because you believe everyone has the same heart as you, even though you're proved wrong over and over. 

You let your heart get taken advantage of because you think you're doing everyone else a favor by being kind and gentle, by shrinking down your importance to make room for others. Girl, I can promise you that's not how it works.

Don't be afraid to shine, to show your emotions, to be who you truly are. Stand up for yourself and what you believe in. Make your voice heard and make yourself comfortable. Allow yourself to take up the space you leave open for everyone else because you matter. You fucking matter. Your problems are not insignificant because they might appear "smaller," you're allowed to be upset even if nothing "seems wrong" and you're allowed to talk about yourself. Your emotions are all valid and you don't need permission to talk about them. 

You let your heart get taken advantage of because you're too nice and there's nothing wrong with that but it's time to stop letting yourself get treated like a doormat. It's time to realize your worth and acknowledge what you deserve. 

Your heart is fragile, it can only take so much before it breaks but you are resilient and you've proven that time and time again. Your strength is not questioned and neither is how much you can carry. You are so strong and capable of so much, and you have to believe that. You have to stand up for what you deserve. You have to realize it's not your job to fix everyone, or be there for them at all times, or be so easily accessible. You have to realize you have to prioritize yourself and your own problems, too.

It's time to stop making yourself a priority for people who are only there when it's convenient for them. It's time to stop allowing your heart to be taken advantage of and mistreated by people who don't give a fuck about you. 

You are incredible and you don't have to be strong for everyone all the time, sometimes you just need to be strong for yourself. Sometimes you're the only person you need and you should be the only person you make time for. 

Your kindness is not mistaken for weakness but you have to draw the line somewhere. You have to realize you matter, too. You have to stop letting your heart get taken advantage of even if that means putting other's needs to the side temporarily – they will be okay without your immediate attention. 

At some point, you have to put yourself first and it's time to give yourself the love and attention you've been giving everyone else for so long. 

Becca MartinComment